For Christ sake, we have a history of decency NDC, please call your Ladies to order
We used to live in a country of decency where ladies were insisted upon to wear their dresses long beneath the knees. Those were the days when ladies sit with their legs closed whether they were in trousers, skirt or dress. Those were the days when a lady’s brassiere will never show and there was nothing to see about the panty line. Those were the days when ladies’ hair was braided.
Whatever you want to see of a lady is a human decently dressed, and if you choose to, you can imagine the rest – that will be your own headache.
Gone were those days that you dare propose to a girl. In fact, the words, “I love you,” were so sacrilegious that it could earn you a free one-way ticket to hell. Before you attempt to open your mouth for such words to drop out, then you must be sure that desire is what you will get, or else you would earn a title among your mates that will chase you throughout your life.
Talking sex was a forbidden statement, even in private, let alone in public. And in those days you would not dare hold a lady’s hand in public, even if far away from home. If you did, you are very likely to reach home to find a series of questions waiting for you, and the cane raised in a “talk true” and “why did you do that” mode of skin tearing rhythm. Even without the internet or telephone what you did in public will go home long ahead of you.
Yes, those were the days when you wake up from a dream in which you had an encounter with the opposite sex, and get so scared that you could have been caught by your parents, and here we are talking about a dream.
Those were the days when Ghana was, on the average, a very decent country. Males and females alike dressed well, even with the mini-skirts and hot pants crowding the fashion world. For, at least, seven out of ten ladies you meet in town were decently dressed. It was our culture.
What is happening these days has thrown this country into a cultureless state, and people openly talk about sex and even publicly post sex videos inappropriately.
What is worrisome is that the youth of today believe in their freedom, and so will want to do anything at any time, and feel okay and free about it. The laws have changed.
Those days when you misbehaved in school and got beaten, know that the beatings will be repeated when you got home. And when you misbehaved in town, you will get disciplined alright by a total stranger who will be congratulated by your parents. And mess up at home, after a sound beating, trust your parent to drag you to school and report to the head what you did and demand you were beaten again.
And whoever says under the law you cannot be punished twice for the same offence. Tell that to the elders in the days gone past. What is Child’s Rights to them? Child’s Right is the act whereby the Child must always do the right thing, even at its own peril.
Then, slowly the seventies faded away for the eighties to come, and sooner we had Child Rights to abide by. Suddenly, the child has more rights than the adult, and yet, he or she is not taught their responsibilities. Eastern countries like Japan, even in the state of industrial revolution and becoming one of the giant economies in the world, there was this strict adherence to discipline. The child is brought up to be a disciplined fellow, but that was not the case in the West. Actor Jackie Chan spoke about how his son based in the USA could sit while talking to him, something which would never have happened in his native home.
Here in these parts of the world, it is obvious that we are ready to accept anything the White man demands of us without considering the consequences. Of course, we do not want to be labelled “Bad” in their books, because that will mean no loans but sanctions against our state and government.
So our rich culture is fast disappearing, and at an alarming rate. These days, the youth can come out and speak or do things inappropriately and feel they are doing Ghana some good.
Just as celebrities abroad, especially in the USA, have adopted the mode of crudely making statements against each other and performing profanity in public, Ghana’s celebrities are gradually adopting these uncivilised attitudes. Meanwhile, those with the authority to check these are not in a hurry to call them to order.
Chris Brown came to Ghana and lit weed (Indian hemp) on stage and started teaching our youth how to smoke, but he was safely guided out of this country without being disciplined and taught how we deal with drug addicts. The promoters who brought him here even went ahead to defend his crude act.
As if that was the opener for worse things to come, lately, some celebrities, known to be from the National Democratic Congress (NDC) camp, have also started grabbing each other’s throats, or should I say, each other’s underwear, accusing and counter-accusing each other and revealing things that, for the sake of decency, should have been kept secret.
Afia Schwarzenegger, Mzbel and Tracy Boakye, who are known NDC activists, have taken to social media making statements which should never be made public.
It is completely un-Ghanaian and out of bounds of our rich culture and discipline that anyone, most especially a woman, should come out to speak about raw sex, profanity and all that jazz, to the extent of even describing each other’s genitals and the number of men each had sex with.
For God’s sake, are these women correct in their heads? Do they know the effect their useless banter is having on the image of this country? Are they aware of how cheaply they are making outsiders rate Ghanaian women? Do they know the effects these unpolished languages and deeds will have on their own children?
Who do they think they are, and how do they rate themselves? They are celebrities and the celebrities’ show lifespan is very short, just as sportsmen. Let someone or another group of ladies appear on the horizon, and these noisy and uncouth women will be eclipsed.
They should look at the likes of decent celebrities like Grace Omaboe, Grace Nortey and others who are now in the twilight.
Can’t they endeavour to follow the footprints of Jackie Appiah, Yvonne Nelson, Nadia Buhari, Lydia Forson,Yvone Okoro, Naa Ashokor, and those other very decent actresses whose indecencies are only on camera for the roles they play, but outside the movies one will never hear them saying anything crude, rude and indecent?
Ghana must catch and maintain a stand of decency, and it should start from our women. That is not to say that all of the male celebrities are any better than the women described here.
I will suggest that the authorities in charge of entertainment must set up strict rules and guidelines for all in the industry, with heavy sanctions against anyone who breaks the rules.
Meanwhile, I will plead with the NDC to speak to their women, because it is the party they are advertising. Can one imagine somewhere in the seventies that women will come out to speak and act in such manners?
Even in the early eighties, songs with profane flavours were banned, but not today. We are now in a free range where profanity and loose talks are the order of the day, and these NDC celebrities are way in a comfortable lead.
Hon Daniel Dugan
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