The news all over town was about how a beautiful Ghanaian actress and model, Moesha Boduong, degraded Ghanaian women, when, in an interview with CNN’s Christine Amanpour, she made a statement to suggest that due to the feeble economy, Ghanaian women, including her very self, have to warm the bellies of older men to be able to survive. All hell soon broke loose, since that was not exactly the situation in this country.
Sugar daddies have been in vogue with us since the early seventies or even beyond. When we were kids, we were told of men about our fathers having sexual relationships with women of their daughters’ ages. There were even instances of a sort of grandfather-granddaughter intimacy.
There are many reasons given, and some personal, why such young girls opt for their daddies’ mates. Some believe they get better treated and respected by these daddies than they would from guys of their age group. Some believe that with a married old man, precautionary measures against pregnancies would never be compromised with. That man would not appreciate making a girl about his daughter’s age pregnant, but, of course, some smart girls do fake pregnancies and demand a lot of money to abort. A married man would not want any publicity, and so he would do his best to terminate that pregnancy, no matter the cost. However, a guy her age may rejoice and want that pregnancy to remain, or he may not have enough to take care of the pregnancy. In all intents, the girl would not be ready to become a mother.
The bottom line is how best the girl is catered for, and this means cash, in kind and emotionally. And the truth is that this kind of living is not unique to Ghana alone, it is very wide-spread in almost every country on the globe.
That Christine Amanpour should be surprised at what Moesha said is in itself shocking, considering the calibre of this journalist of high repute. There are a number of aged billionaires with girlfriends or wives their daughters or granddaughters’ age. For examples, the 87-year-old former Formula 1 boss, Bernie Ecclestone’s wife, Fabiana Flosi, is 47 years his junior; in 2007, 84-year-old billionaire Joe Hardy divorced his 23-year-old wife, Kristen Georgi, for 22-year-old Danielle Golden, and Woody Allen’s wife, Soon-Yi Previn, is 35 years his junior. There are many more examples, and all boils down to fame and money. So, what was Christine shocked about?
I am not in any way defending Moesha for a reckless generalisation. Her behaviour towards relationships could pose lots of problems when she decides to settle down. Men would only keep away at arm’s length because such women could be considered the non-marriage type. And she should realise that the beautiful ones are not yet born, for a day would come when more women would be considered more attractive and beautiful, and become the most sought after. She would then be dumped, and soon she would go begging for a relationship.
As the Minister of Gender said our women generally strive every day for a decent living, and I may add that if they would give themselves to a man, with most of them, it would be all about love nothing, but love.
Moesha has apologised, but I think she must be schooled on how to conduct herself during interviews.
She is not the first person to ever get so excited during an interview and say things generally untrue. Before Moesha, there was Emmanuel Yeboah, the famous physically challenged cyclist. When he got to the USA for an award and was interviewed about how he was able to make it. He started by saying that it was most challenging, since in Ghana all physically challenged babies are cast out into the forests and left to die. Only those who were hidden would grow up and become beggars on the streets all their lives.
It is rather sad for this hero to make such a statement at his moment of glory. Emmanuel came back to Ghana and was given a reception meant for heroes.
In all these, such reckless pronouncements, meant to draw sympathy for one’s self, need to be condemned. There is no place in modern day Ghana where physically challenged babies are cast out of society and left in the bushes to die, because of their condition. We have long respected our physically challenged and have been seeing them through school to become prominent members of society, and even rising up to be ministers of state. It is almost mandatory now to construct office blocks and other business centres which are friendly to the physically challenged. Ghana cannot be a country where the rights of these vulnerable members of society are disregarded.
It is also not true that every Ghanaian woman offers sex to older men in order to survive. Some women, indeed, due to abject poverty, have no choice than to follow the aged wealthy, but not the likes of Moesha, who is not a needy person at all. If such is the case, then we are into deep sexual immorality, and the younger and upstarting men would never get women to marry, but they are.
The problem with some people is that when given the chance to speak about their lives, they colour it with a pinch of lies in order to draw sympathy.
Moesha and Emmanuel could be celebrities and they could be internationally-acclaimed heroes in their various endeavours. They are ambassadors of the nation and should learn to make a good impression of themselves. By all means, they can talk about the problems of the country, but they should not lie to impress. And, by all means, they can tell the truth about themselves, if they so wish, but they should never overstep their boundaries by lying about our society.
Hon. Daniel Dugan